friends recently getting engaged and married have reminded me that social norms and beliefs about finding the one are based on a scarcity model of love and relationship. if there is only the one what happens if we don’t find them? are we destined to wander alone, disconnected, unfulfilled? is it at all possible that we might be able to create deep relationships with any number of people…?
then a blog post appeared in my feed, from carsie blanton, about casual love:
“And here’s my favorite part: if love is casual – not something rare and dramatic and potentially painful, but something common and easy and mutually enjoyable – we all get to feel more love, and share more love. Sounds lovely, right?”